6 Reasons You Shouldn’t Date Your Best Friend

Several years ago, I started dating my best friend. At the time, it made perfect sense. We were inseparable, we had so much in common, we were extremely close, and when we realized we had feelings for each other that surpassed being just friends, it seemed almost silly not to date each other. Especially since we were both single and had been single for awhile — a factor that we didn’t take into consideration as something that was weighing heavily on our decision.

Needless to say, it didn’t work out. And, in the process, we lost each other. Now our contact is limited to happy birthday emails.

While dating your best friend or making a relationship out of friends with benefits situation always works out in the movies, in real life, it’s a different story. In theory, it seems like the best idea ever but, in theory, lots of disasters seem like the best idea ever.

Even if dating your best friend does work out in real life, it’s still not without its complications. So before you go down that road, here are six things to consider — seven things that all point in the direction that dating your best friend is a bad idea.

  1. Sex Can Change Everything

“Sex changes things and when you date your best friend that friendship changes,” New York-based relationship and etiquette expert of Relationship Advice Forum, April Masini, tells Bustle. “If the relationship fails, you’ve lost your best friend and that person is now your ex. Tread carefully.”

As much as we may not want to admit to it, sex can change things. That’s also why friends with benefits rarely go back to being just friends.